Last December, I told my boss that I was going to quit, without having a new job to go to. Well, that might sound crazy if you are working towards financial independence. But to me, the journey is as important as the destination. I wouldn’t be able to enjoy financial independence if I’m miserable for years and years pursuing it.
My younger years
When I was two years old, my parents opened a business which kept them pretty busy. As the years went by, they worked more and more and when I got older and went to high school, I was home alone a lot.
Our parents thought that we didn’t need them as much anymore being in our teens. My oldest sister moved out when I was 12 and my other sister was busy with school and friends. I remember that I didn’t like coming home in an empty house all the time.
Because of this, I was determined to be there for my own kids in the future.
Having my own kids
When our first son was born, I had my own business, but it was small and I could do most of the work from home. When I was pregnant with our second son, I decided to sell my business to be able to stay home completely with our two boys.
Unfortunately I did get a major depression after our second son. I was there, but I also wasn’t. I can’t remember very much of his first year and I hate that. When the youngest was almost a year, we took both boys to daycare one day a week, so I could work on myself and get some rest. It helped and I felt a lot better.
A year later, we moved to a detached house with a big garden in a small town. The boys were now 2 and 3 years old and they went to preschool two mornings a week. This way I had time for myself and I was still around a lot for them.
At that point, I was ready to do something outside of the house again. I quickly found a job in the area I studied, childcare. The commute was quite long, an hour one way, but the company’s vision was exactly like mine and I thought I would love it.
I did love it at first. Finally I wasn’t only a mum all the time, but I had something for myself, I had colleagues and I worked on myself, feeling good about myself.
I only worked three days a week, but I was 12 hours away from home on workdays. That meant that I only saw the boys for approximately 30 minutes on these days. I really didn’t like that and the boys neither. I also started to notice that my depression was coming back to the surface. Not a good sign at all.
I started to dislike my job more and more. The work itself is something I love to do, I worked with babies and I really love them. Just give me some babies to take care of, and I’m happy! But the circumstances made me very unhappy.
My pedagogical vision on babies didn’t really match with my colleagues, which made me do or accept things I wasn’t feeling good about. Add long hours and a long commute to that and you might be able understand that it was too much for me.
I wasn’t sure if I had to quit or not, I mean it felt like failing big time. There are people that work for 40+ hours, have a family, maintain a lot of friendships and still do all kinds of other stuff as well.
Well, I’m starting to realize that I’m not like those people. And I’m becoming better in accepting that I’m different and I try to care less about what others think about that.
I was already investing back in 2017, but I wasn’t pursuing FI and I never heard of FIRE back then. But during my last job, it became so much clearer that a passive income would give so much freedom and choices.
I finally understood what my husband was talking about for years. I didn’t really understand his way of handling money before. It seemed kinda greedy and frugal to me, while we didn’t really had to be frugal. But in 2018 it all made sense.
My mindset changed when I read more and more about FIRE, passive income, investing and more. Now I’m totally on board with him on this subject and he loves that I even started blogging about it. We can finally talk about this all the time and we understand each other better on the subject of money.
In December 2018, I started this blog. At first primarily for myself to get insight into my investments. But while I was diving into the whole blogging thing, I read about monetizing your blog. Wait, what? People actually make money blogging?
I read a lot about it and started to realize that I could actually make my blog my new business. This suits me perfectly actually, as I love to be home, I love to write and I love to work on the computer. Being able to work from home, do what I love and have time for myself, will hopefully be a step in the right direction in dealing with myself.
The blog won’t pay me for a while, and it’s a lot of work, I know. But I’m giving myself the time to build up and learn everything about blogging and of course finances. Luckily my husband is on board with me trying to make this blogging thing work.
I found an awesome course that covers everything there is to know about blogging. The guy who teaches it, Paul, actually makes a nice income from his blogs, so he knows what he’s talking about. I already learned so much and I’m still just at the beginning of the courses he has.
Would you ever quit your job or work less during your journey towards FI? Let me know in the comments or on social media!